For as long as I can remember, managing rage and emotions has been a challenge. My go-to emotion was always rage. My mom used to tell the story of how, as a toddler, I’d stand perfectly straight with my arms pressed to my sides — then topple forward flat on my face. Somehow, the physical impact released the pent-up energy inside me. It’s actually one of my earliest memories.
Childhood Rage
As I grew older, those tantrums escalated into throwing things, breaking furniture, even smashing windows. Nine times out of ten, when something was broken in our house, the finger pointed at me — and usually, it was right. I didn’t know why I was so angry. I just knew the rage was there, bubbling under the surface.
How I Started Managing Rage and Emotions With My Breath
When I was about eight, someone gave me a piece of advice that felt ridiculous at the time:
“When you feel angry, Jaime, and you feel like breaking something, count your breaths backwards from 10 to 1.”
At first, it was rage-breathing — forceful, fiery, resentful. But by the time I reached “1,” the rage dissipated and the urge to break something passed because I’d already released the energy through my breath.
I had no idea then that this was my first taste of mindfulness. Today, breathwork is widely recognised as a powerful practice, but back then — when a Walkman was cutting-edge technology — it was all I had. And honestly? I’m grateful for that. The breath is always available. It costs nothing, requires nothing, and is with me 24/7.
In this short video, I share how rage became my go-to emotion — and the simple breath technique that helped me start managing it.
Why Guided Meditation Helps With Managing Rage and Emotions
In my teens, my mom, Dehyana, began leading guided meditation circles. Tuesday nights became sacred for me. Through her words and music, I was transported — into joy, love, forgiveness, and yes, even the harder emotions of anger and rage.
Those circles gave me more than just calm — they gave me perspective. They lightened my heart. Over time, I noticed I didn’t always need those 10 angry breaths to manage my rage. Meditation itself was dissolving the tension at the root.
Today: Breath + Guided Meditations
Even now, I still feel that old familiar rage creeping in sometimes. When it does, I return to my breath — ten deep, cleansing breaths that release the storm. And as maintenance, I use my mom’s guided meditations at least twice a week, often before bed, to clear my energy and keep my heart open.
Some of these meditations — beloved by so many for nearly 20 years — are about to be available digitally for the first time through Ramedicare. It feels like coming full circle: from the little girl who used breath to survive her rage, to the woman now sharing tools that can help others heal their own emotions.
Reflection + Invitation
I’ve come to believe that rage itself isn’t the enemy. It’s a messenger. A veil over something deeper. If I can sit with it, breathe through it, and let it teach me, there’s always a gift on the other side. It takes courage — but it’s worth it. The next time you’re struggling to manage rage or emotions, I invite you to pause, breathe ten deep breaths, and see what shifts.
💛 If you’d like more tools, join the waitlist for our upcoming Guided Meditation Collection here. These practices have carried me for decades — and I know they can support you, too.
✨ I’d also love to hear from you: What’s your go-to tool for managing rage and emotions?
